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It’s one of the worst fears of any parent. You are in the middle of a public place and your child starts throwing a temper tantrum. You’ve seen it happen to other people before, but you never thought it would happen to you.
So how do you save yourself the embarrassment of a child’s temper tantrum without caving into their demands? In this short article, we will be listing the key steps to preventing or stopping child temper tantrums.
If it night times and your baby is crying in her bed, try to run the musical crib mobile. This will probably stop the temper tantrums instantly.
The key to diffusing a temper tantrum is communication. When your kid starts to scream, it is important to take a moment or two to collect your thoughts. If you start to yell back at the kid, this will only distress them and possibly worsen or prolong the temper tantrum.
You will also want to use shorter phrases that are easier for the child to comprehend. You may also want to rephrase commands in a positive sense. Instead of saying “Stop running” by using the words “Walk, please” you can be more effective at communicating.
You may have to repeat yourself many times. Try to remain calm and continue to get the message across. This part can be frustrating, but as we mentioned before it is important to keep your emotions out of it. You then will also want to acknowledge the feelings of your child.
You can say something like “I know it makes you sad when it is time for bed, but…” this shows that you understand your child and that you care about their feelings. The important thing here is that you appear to be on their side rather than against them. If you are against them they will just get angry at you as well.
When it comes to communication, there are a few important things to keep in mind. First of all, you don’t want to appear to be against your child. You are on their side, you care about what they care about and you want to help them get over the situation.
Also, try to understand that most temper tantrums arise out of the need for independence. Children get angry because they can’t do the things they want and you have to communicate with them why they can’t do those things in a polite, non-confrontational way.
Another method is to prevent temper tantrums, to begin with. This is a good way to reduce the number of temper tantrums you have to deal with, but it is also important to use the communication method to deal with the ones that you can’t avoid.
If your child tends to be a bit more high strung and is prone to having more tantrums, you can try to avoid them by using distractions. An example is if your kid hates being in the car for more than an hour and you have to take them on a long trip, be sure to bring them lots to do, a few snacks, etc.
This will make it less likely they become bored and therefore less likely they have a tantrum. It also helps to warm them of the car ride in advance, then it feels like less of a punishment.
You may also want to draw out the transition time in between tasks. For instance, if your child is playing with their toys and it is about to be bedtime, make sure you warn them in advance. Maybe they are at the pool and you tell them “last jump off the diving board” well in advance so that they know their play time is about to be over.
Ensuring a playful nursery with cozy baby crib and other wall drawing is a great way to keep your baby calm.
If your child is prone to having tantrums when playing with other kids, you may want to reinforce social skills early on to avoid altercations. For instance, teach them about sharing and tradeoffs so that they can play well with others. This is important so that each child does not get their feelings hurt, but also it is an important skill to have later on.
When a child has a temper tantrum, it is often tempting to look for a “quick fix” but it is important to play the long game here. If you reinforce bad habits here, your child will continue to have temper tantrums in the future. For example, some parents offer children candy to stop them from crying, but this is a bad habit to get into.
This will set up in the child’s mind that they can cry anytime they want candy. You also don’t want to cave to the child’s demands. Although it is important to be on their side during a temper tantrum, they have to understand that you are the authority figure and you have to be listened to. You have to remain calm, continue to communicate and eventually they will stop.
It is important to always avoid physical punishment. Although this may appear to work in the short term, it is not an effective method to deal with children and will only teach them that violence is an acceptable way to handle conflict. You also want to make sure you are taking your child out of harms way before dealing with the tantrum.
For example, if your child is crying in the middle of the street, be sure to move them onto the sidewalk before anything else. Safety is most important.
Finally, make sure to take advantage of the allies you have in your life. Talk with teachers and coaches to see how your child behaves when you are not around, and make sure they are aware of the effective methods of dealing with your child.
This does not create more work for them, in fact it makes it easier for them to do their job. If you ever feel that you are in over your head, be sure to communicate with other parents and seek professional help if necessary. If you keep all these tips in mind, you should experience less temper tantrums, and be better equipped for the ones you do have to deal with!